Is it just me or are there more people getting married or having babies at a young age than in the past? Recently, it seems as though there are an overwhelming number of people who are getting engaged, married or pregnant...all at the tender age of 25 or younger.
These days, it seems that a week doesn't go by without reading on facebook or twitter a 'congratulations' message to a person who has dropped to one knee, taken the plunge or knocked up their partner (or even worse a random). Being 25 years of age myself, I understand that people are at that point in their life where they want to get engaged. I understand that people want to get married. I can even drink 12 beers and still kind of understand why someone at this age would want a baby. But, the question still is: what's the rush?
On the topic of pregnency, why is it that young women feel the need to have babies at such young ages? And, why are you men so fucking stupid that you don't wear condoms? There are way to many "accidents" happening these days. If you're a couple that get pregnent and it wasn't planned then abortion is an option, as well as putting the child up for adoption. If you're that young and the child wasn't planned put him/her up for adoption before you ruin 3 lives...the two morons who got pregnent and the poor child. My rule: if you're not married and older than 26 years of age then you shouldn't be allowed to have children...you're not ready physically, mentally or financially.
Getting engaged seems like a bit of a different situation. On the one hand I can see why stage 5 clinger girlfriends force their boyfriends to propose because they're so self conscience they need to know that the relationship "is going somewhere." What a load of shit. On the other hand, getting engaged has become a bit of a fad. Since when did it become cool to get engaged, only to turn around to friends and tell them the wedding isn't until 2012. 2012? We could all be dead by then. What the fuck is the point of that? Be patient and let the relationship grow. Let an engagement happen when it should happen not when you feel the need to spice up something in your relationship.
Finally....marriage. I know a number of people my age who have gotten married in the last couple of years. Congrats. The ones who went about it the right way; date, fall in love, move in together, get engaged, and then finally get married, will probably have success. It's the people out there who get married without the 'must' who will fail. That being, if you have never lived with the person you're about to marry...it won't work out. Period. End of story. Without living with that person you do NOT know the person fully. "But Rick, I stay at my boyfriends 4 nights a week so there won't be any difference"...no, you're an idiot, it will not work.
A child does not need to be brought into this world without financial and mental stability. A couple of 25 year olds (or younger) are not stable in any way, shape of form. If you respond with "love will make it work", well then you need more help than you know.
Getting engaged shows that the relationship is moving forward, yes. But, if you're letting an engagement dominate the mental state of your relationship then you're actually holding back the relationship more than you know. When you get engaged it shouldn't be for status or self happiness, it's when you're BOTH truly in love and ready for the next step.
Marriage is something sacred. With all the young dummies in the world getting married and having children at such a young age, no wonder the bloody divorce rate has never been higher. Smarten up and take your time. You'll be with this person forever, hopefully, so there is no need to rush.
So, the next time any of these three life altering options staring down at you, please ask yourself...what's the rush?
Thanks for dropping by,
RP
