First, let's define a "cheater." If you're in a relationship; dating, engaged, married, whatever, and you think what you're doing with someone else is wrong, it probably is. Flirting is one thing, and something I feel helps keep relationships going strongit, but cheating is another. A cheater is a person who does any of the following things with someone who is not their best friend or partner: hold hands, kiss, make-out, give an ass grab, have oral sex in the washroom of a bar, have sex in a different area code (yes, even Vegas) and finally, offer to hook up with that person at another time. The last example is not exactly a form of cheating and no you are not considered a cheater for something you haven't done, but the thought is there and it will happen eventually.
More and more there seems to be cases of cheating arising in relationships. Men have always been known as the more likely sex to "cheat" on their partner, but that is only because women are so cute and lovable that they get away with it much easier. Women are just as bad as men in the cheating department, if not worse. Through my research, conducted with both males and females, I noticed that about 90% of people have or would cheat on their partner. NINETY PERCENT. Are you kidding me? That's outrageous. I knew people cheated but didn't realize it was that bad. Anyhow, if people are somewhat aware that cheating goes on, then why are some people so naive to think "that's not happening in my relationship?"
People always want to believe that they've found the one, that their lover is different from the rest, that the person who loves them would never hurt them that way. That's a load of bullshit. The chances that your partner is cheating is actually quite high. The fact is, is that we as humans get bored. We like variety. Variety truly is the spice of life. When you've been with someone for any length of time you want to experience someone else. You miss those one night flings with no strings attached and many people think they can get away with it while in a relationship...and they do. When they don't get away with it, it's usually because they didn't get caught, but more to the fact that they can't handle the guilt of it all.
Since most people cheat, without admission of course, I believe the solution is to have a municipal, provincial/state, national or even international Cheat Day. Here in Canada we have Family Day, and we all know that's just a day off work more than spending the day with your family. But with Cheat Day, it could be a day that everyone participates in. The way this would be successful is if people participating didn't see their partner that day, go out and meet others who are in the same mind set, have no strings attached sex and the next morning forget it ever happened.
Now I know this sounds far fetched, but think about the benefits for all. First, you get to experience full out, balls to the wall, passionate sex that, let's face it, has been sucked out of your relationship...the degree of suckage dependis on what stage you're at. Moreover, it allows everyone not to feel guilty because it's not really cheating. It's a FREE get out of a relationship for a day card. And finally, and most importantly is that it keeps everyone honest. Instead of trying to be sneaky, clearing phone calls and sexual texts from your phone, making excuses for why you're to busy to hang out, etc. you can just go have some hot sex with a stranger without having any lingering feeling. Fuck, don't even talk to the person, bang and dash and that's it.The less talking, the less connection you will feel and you'll just be using the person as a sexual outlet.
Now I know that kissing someone while your drunk at a club is totally different than engaging in sexual intercourse, but the fact is that cheating is cheating. Is getting a hand job in a movie theatre the same as staying at a love motel and having sex all night long? NO. But, the fact is that it's still cheating. People will say "I only made out with this person once so it's not that big of a deal" (compared to sleeping with someone else). Well, in a way yes this is true. But, if you catch a partner just kissing someone, what makes you think it wouldn't go further?
We're all cheaters at one point or another in life, or at least the majority of us are. So, let's be honest with ourselves and our partners by not having to fly under the radar. Let's get a National Cheat Day put on the calendar and save us all from losing the one we love by cheating on them and either ruining things by admission or getting caught in the act.
Thanks for dropping by,
Rick Perch
RANDOM RANTING
- Can somebody please tell Brett Favre to retire...for real already. I say he replicates last season: is strong for about 8-10 games and then folds like a tent.
- Why are ALL women wearing and loving those "300" (the movie) looking barbaric shoes? Am I the only one who thinks they look ridiculous?
- MEN: if you are over 19 years old, PLEASE stop wearing t-shirts under your golf or long sleeve dress shirts. You're not in high school anymore.
- How cool was it that they shut down the biggest street in the world, Yonge St. in Toronto, to play a 20 minute tennis match with 2 of the top players in the world? Great idea!
- Team Canada released their hockey jerseys for the Olympics in Vancouver. Three words that come to mind when seeing them: DULL, BORING and EW. Your thoughts?
- What's all this buzz in the States about chocolate covered bacon? And some of you wonder why the obesity rate is so high? *Note - It will be at the CNE in Toronto for 2 weeks...maybe I'll try it.
