DATING MULTIPLE PEOPLE JUST MAKES SENSE

Like Getting Hurt? Only Date One Person!

You go out on a Saturday night to the bar and you meet a woman within the first five minutes of walking in the door. Then there is that instant attraction and connection with this person. But all of a sudden her girlfriends want to leave because their heels are hurting them. Any man with confidence would clearly get the young lady's phone number. But, the real question is: How do you treat the rest of your evening?

Some may say, "Enjoy the night and don't worry about other women in the bar because you already got one beautiful girl's phone number." Smarter men would take the first phone number as a sign of things to come. Maybe you're looking really good that night. Maybe you're coming across very confident, which women can sense from miles away. Why waste the rest of a good evening with just one phone number? Answer: YOU DON'T!

The problem with putting all your eggs in one basket without searching for more eggs is that you never know if you're missing out on meeting a sexier, nicer, more compatible egg. It's simple math. If you get five phone numbers in one night, the chances of you finding a person you like is obviously higher. If you fill your week with drinks and dinners with different girls then you will be able to figure out who you are more compatible with. Weed out the weirdo's and continue dating the ones you enjoy being with. Wiggle that down until you have found the one you want to date exclusively. So why is this looked upon so negatively? Depends on who you ask.

The reason you should not sell yourself short is because when you are dating a single woman, you find yourself in a world of trouble before you know it. There are many things that guys do wrong when concentrating on a single woman. Showing to much attention to a girl, looking somewhat desperate and letting that person into your head more often than you should are all issues men have to cope with.

If you're only dating one measly girl, you're probably showing this girl to much attention. It is definitely a fine line but you cannot smother someone you want a future with. She will notice this and think that you're quite desperate or a stage five clinger. But, if you don't flirt or give this person attention at the proper time they may feel like you have minimal interest or that your thoughts are laying with some other lady. Another reason you need the distraction of various women is so that the person you're interested in will be more intrigued by the amount of options you have. That woman will think that you must have some great qualities if you have other women interested in you. Finally, if you keep yourself distracted with other women, you will stay busy and in turn keep the one you really like, out of your head. Why would you want her out of your head you ask? Well, maybe not completely out of your head but enough to keep yourself busy and not letting yourself become that stage five clinger type.

Enjoy your life by seeing the various types of women. Don't be ashamed of dating multiple people at once. It is the best way to find what you're looking for. From dating a lot you will be able to find that person who will make you truly happy in a relationship.

The Perch Bottom Line - Date people who you know for a fact like you. If you are not sure, chances are they don;t like you in a sexual way. That, or you're just an idiot. If that person likes you, she will be worth spending time with. Don't force anything and good things will come!!

Thanks for dropping by,

Rick Perch